Understanding Yourself

Sometimes understanding why you feel the way you do is the first step towards change.

The reflections here explore some of the patterns I regularly encounter in the therapy room — the ways we learn to protect ourselves, relate to other people and make sense of who we are.

They aren’t intended to tell you what’s wrong or give you a list of things to fix. They’re an invitation to become curious about your own experience. You may recognise something of yourself here. You may not. Either is okay.

Understanding your relationships

Relationships often become the place where our deepest fears, hopes and patterns appear. These articles explore why relationships can feel so difficult – and what those experiences might be trying to tell us.

Understanding yourself

Sometimes the hardest relationship to understand is the one we have with ourselves. These articles explore identity, self-worth and the patterns we carry – and what can happen when we begin to understand ourselves differently.

Understanding your patterns

Many of the ways we think, feel and respond developed for a reason. These articles explore the patterns we can find ourselves repeating, why they can be so difficult to change, and what can happen when we begin to understand what sits beneath them.

When life changes

Sometimes change is chosen. Sometimes it arrives without asking. These articles explore what can happen when life shifts, sometimes ends, or the way forward isn’t yet clear.

When your mind wont switch off

Sometimes the mind seems determined to keep searching for an answer. These articles explore worry, overthinking and a need for certainty – and what might be happening beneath the thoughts that are difficult to let go.

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